After going through a LOT of drama with friends and family these past few weeks, I've come to realize that maybe I'm not fully all right. Some things were caused by me acting like a 5-year-old, some things were caused by me being incredibly selfish, and some things were caused because of putting my problems on other people. Not to mention massive trust issues I have from my past
But all of this has convinced me that I need to get help for myself. I can't expect people to help me fix my problems (although it would be nice to have some real life friends who would listen and be there for you in thick or thin...).
As of right now, here are a few goals I wish to gain for myself through personal discovery and therapy:
~ Become more of a selfless person, yet maintaining a balance between giving and taking (I've always been fairly selfish, but I try to help out when I can. But this is mostly for my friendships and romantic relationships; I tend to be more take than give.)
~ Try to go with the flow and learn that sometimes things won't go my way.
~ Try to trust people more and quiet the doubts I always have about people (I might still get hurt by this, but I have to try)
~ Be a calmer person and find ways to calm myself down before I do something stupid.
~ Try to act more like my age, instead of a 5-year-old (this will take a while, but I've made progress)
~ Try to be an effective communicator and promote mature discussion with my friends, family and partners.
~ STOP PUTTING MY PROBLEMS ON OTHER PEOPLE AND EXPECTING THEM TO FIX IT FOR ME!
Hopefully with all these goals to start from, I can make progress in all of them and then become an improved person.
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Good for you for recognizing that there are things about yourself that you want to change and taking the initiative to do it. Change is not an easy thing, but just admitting that it needs to happen is a huge step in the right direction. Good luck!
ReplyDeleteGood on you! Now that you've set goals, you can work towards them. Totally awesome and you WILL succeed. Period.
ReplyDeleteExactly what Brit said--change is NOT easy, but it is a huge step to admit you need to do it. We've all been there--and I've even seen friendships fall down and go boom in the process, like you have, recently. You are always welcome to message me at FB if you need to vent. : )
ReplyDeleteThat's a nice post and thank you for sharing. There are many challenges that come along with self improvement and knowing these challenges is a good step in the right direction. Some self help books will help you learn on how to achieve the goals and ambitions and guide you on the simple techniques in your everyday life.
ReplyDeletesounds like your head's in the right place!
ReplyDeletegood luck!
mwah,
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